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Feeling contemplative

I've had a lot of 'heavy stuff' going on in my head.

I'm not sure why, but I remembered something that happened a long time ago, when I was still a teenager. I became friends with someone via email. This friend actually was someone fairly important and stood up for me when other people were refusing to do so, even when they agreed with me. I decided meet this person, but due to a chronic illness, I would have to go meet him where he lived. I planned the trip, but a couple weeks before, I realized that my financial situation was more tight than I had thought it would be, so I cancelled the trip.

I didn't think too much of it, planned maybe to go a few months later if the situation improved. Unfortunately, less than a month after my planned trip would have been, this person passed away. I was in complete shock and still, to this day, am so disappointed that I never got to meet this brave person face-to-face.

At that point in my life, I decided to start looking at things a bit differently and began accumulating some thoughts about the 'right' way to live.

I've been pondering on this, and in the meantime, my friend Antoinette sent me a great video of a poem on being alone. I thought both might be worth sharing.

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Be independent. Don't depend on other people. Accept help when others offer it with good intentions but not if they give with strings attached. Be a person they can depend on, even if they don't want to.

Never take your friends and loved ones for granted. Never hold back your feelings for them. Take every opportunity to let them know you care about them and appreciate their place in your life. Spend as much time with them as you can. You will regret missed opportunities later on.

Don't wait around for other people to do things. You miss out on a lot of wonderful experiences, and our fears about doing things alone are often unfounded.

Don't expect loved ones to easily let you know their feelings because a lot of people aren't very good at expressing them. Just know that caring for a person never goes unappreciated and take their words at face value.

There is an unlimited supply of love in the universe, and you're free to give out as much as you can. And you should!

Don't be too hard on yourself and don't hang around others who are negative about you or anyone else. You can't make everyone happy, but you should be honest with yourself and be the best person you know how to be. That doesn't mean there isn't room for improvement, though.

Never react to someone in anger. If you're angry, take some time to go away and think about it before you say something stupid.

A person will remember the way you treated them and talked to them for the rest of their life. Think about that every time you interact with them. This is especially important when this is your family and you'll be around them for many years.

Have goals in life, but be flexible. Having goals doesn't always mean reaching them, and failing to reach them doesn't reflect badly on you. The path toward the goal is a means to growing as a person, and that is important than reaching the goal. Sometimes, often times, those diversions away from the goal will make you a better person.

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cosmic_reverie
Oct. 23rd, 2010 06:35 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry about your friend - that's so sad! Life is short.

Those poems are beautiful.
ursulagoddess
Oct. 23rd, 2010 10:10 pm (UTC)
I am glad we're friends, thank you for sharing this!
ext_329935
Nov. 22nd, 2010 12:04 am (UTC)
Beautiful post
Thanks for this poignant post reminding us all of our own humanity and mortality.

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